Why do we often fear change? Probably because it creates uncertainty and uncertainty can feel uncomfortable.
How much more comfortable it feels when we know we are doing the right thing, when we are certain that the change we are making is the right change to make. It explains why we are always looking to “Experts” to tell us how to lose weight, what the right diet is etc. “Experts” seem so certain about what they are talking about which, in turn, installs the confidence that we are looking for. We no longer have to worry, we have something to believe in, and we think we have the magic answer! We put our trust and faith in the “Expert” and can then blame them when we don’t get the results we expected but as we cling to an idea of perfection we are still clinging to a fear of change.
Uncertainty is a good thing. By 'not knowing' we have to learn to trust, find faith, be humble and be patient. When we fear uncertainty we resist, we tighten up, we become stressed and stop the natural flow of our metabolisms. Change is inevitable and necessary. Without change we would stagnate. Change creates difference and when things are different there is transformation and variation. And we all know that “Change is as good as a rest!”
How would it be if next time you are faced with change and uncertainty you trusted your intuition, you had faith in yourself, you respected your needs as well as the needs other’s, and took one step at a time…? Can you imagine how you might feel? By embracing uncertainty we can breathe, be open, relaxed and welcoming and let the mystery flow and unfold. We can learn what works and what doesn’t work for us. We can search and find our own answers and make change easier.
3 comments:
Ah Sue, what a fabulous blog! Everyone can relate to this as we all experience change in our lives. Some welcome and some very unwelcome.
As you know I had an unwelcome change in my life earlier this year when I lost my father. It was obviously not a change which I chose and it was a horrible time when I didn't feel in control at all. Now 6 months have passed and I can step back a little from the intensity which accompanies not only grief but also all the 'sorting out' needed when losing a loved one.
I understand now that change and the uncertainty that accompanies it feels for me a bit like being a competent sailor, gently steering your boat on its way. Then you hit a rough patch of sea. You feel unsteady, unclear which way to turn. You panic, hanging onto the side, yearning for the distant shore behind you, your safe steady 'known' comforts of before. However if you can trust that you already have the skills within you that you need to face this new situation, then rather than being frightened of sinking... you can allow yourself to adjust and ride the waves, go with the flow, altering your course if necessary into calmer waters again.
I've learnt to not be afraid of change, to not try and control it nor let it control me. Instead to accept it...welcome or unwelcome.. and to embrace what the change brings me.
Thank you for your thoughtful comment Apple, I love your metaphor for uncertainty being like hitting a rough patch of sea and how to cope by riding the waves. It makes me think of how we would use our core strength to keep balanced and strong enough to be able to 'ride the waves', our stamina to keep on doing this as long as is necessary, and our flexibility to go with the flow and alter our course. Next time you do exercise, feel your muscles working to keep you balanced and strong and know that you have a strong and balanced mind; feel your body bend, reach and twist in different directions and know that you can be flexible in your thougths as well as your actions; feel your breath energise and open you and know that you are ready to embrace what the Universe sends your way. x x
Oooh, love your thoughts on this Sue. I'll definitely take this on board (hey I'm on my boat again :) !!).
In addition to feeling it I might also add in some positive affirmations whilst I'm exercising...like 'I am balanced and strong' 'I am building the strength within me to help me face life's challenges'. Hmm...love it!! Have a lovely day xxx
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